Dear Hank:

I’m looking for a boyfriend. I’ve gone on all those apps — Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam — and found some cool guys. But here’s the problem: Almost no one wants to meet up for a drink or dinner. It’s all about hooking up. That is fun, but in my experience, once a guy gets off with another guy, he isn’t likely to come back. I really want to get to know a guy and establish a relationship.

My question: Is that just me? Is sex on the first date a good idea if you’re looking for a long-term relationship…

Henry Hank E Scott

Henry (Hank) Scott is the former CEO of Out Publishing (and thus a professional homosexual) and an amateur anthropologist who likes to explore gay culture

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